Every day, I hear from professionals who desperately want to change their careers. They typically have at least one or a combination of these key reasons for desiring change:
- They have stopped finding any value, meaning or enjoyment in their work
- Their work, colleagues, or environment have become toxic, exhausting and negatively impactful
- They no longer feel well-suited to the work they do day in and day out...
The other day, a client shared with me her financial situation at work, and asked some probing questions about money, salary, compensation and promotions that revealed a good deal about her personal money story and behavior.
She shared this:
“Kathy, I’m not earning nearly what I should be, despite asking for a raise repeatedly (and being told “Not now”). I just don’t know what else to do....
Just this week, I worked with a client who, despite her efforts to build a new career path, hasn’t been able to achieve — or even move one step towards — her ultimate goals. We analyzed what’s in the way, and why the process of change towards what she’s dreamed of for herself just hasn’t gotten off the ground.
Our conversation got me thinking about this:
Why do so many thousands of...
One of the most powerful concepts I've learned in my life emerged from my training as a Marriage and Family Therapist. It’s about boundaries – the invisible barrier that separates you from the world around you. Boundaries define who you are, and they keep you safe and secure, physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
Having well-developed, appropriate boundaries ensures that you’re protected from be...
As a coach working with folks to improve their lives and careers, I hear from hundreds of people a month who are dealing with a wide variety of personal and professional problems. What’s become abundantly clear is that there are several common, damaging communication patterns that contribute to or exacerbate our life and work challenges, but most often, people are not at all aware of them.
The most common communica...
Have you ever wondered why some people are able to stand in their greatness as leaders, and evolve and grow even in the face of extreme challenges, while others falter in their gaps? There’s been volumes and volumes written about great leadership today, but much of it doesn’t look at how we can honestly and deeply evaluate our own blind spots and gaps, and close them, so we can reach our highest potential as lea...
In talking this week with a friend with an extremely narcissistic spouse, something became even clearer to me than ever before: When we're in an unhealthy, manipulative or demeaning relationship or situation but keep saying to ourselves 'I can't believe this is happening to me!” we keep ourselves stuck in pain and victimization. Our disbelief and/or resistance to the situation prevent us from taking the brave...
Many pundits, scholars, academics and lawmakers believe that the current education system is fraught with challenges that have to be addressed and resolved for our country and future generations to thrive. Governor Andrew M. Cuomo, for one, recently unveiled a new tuition-free pilot program in New York State that attempts to forge a new way.
To most, it’s become clear that our current system is no longer affordable...
The other day, I woke up and spent a bit of time reading my emails, only to discover that I’d been insulted on LinkedIn. The insult came as a response to a comment I made while sharing a great post from my friend and Forbes contributor William Arruda on '7 Parenting Traits that Help Children Succeed At Work.'
The parenting trait that I indicated was my favorite in the list was “humility.” I did so becau...
Literally every week I hear from clients, course members and readers who share that they feel they deserve a promotion or raise (or both) and just aren’t getting it. These professionals may have brought the subject up to their boss, had a meeting about it, pushed for it, or just emailed their supervisor or HR about it, but it’s falling on deaf ears.
They ask me this:
Kathy, how do I get the promotion I des...